Moving to the desert makes woman thirst for former life

DEAR ABBY

Moving to the desert makes woman thirst for former life

DEAR ABBY: Last year my boyfriend and I moved across the country to Arizona so he could be closer to his friends and family. My entire family lives on the East Coast.

Recently it seems like our plan to marry and start a family keeps getting pushed further and further into the future. I’m 35; he’s 47. Neither of us has been married or has kids.

I’m beginning to regret having uprooted my life for someone who is unilaterally changing the timing of what I thought we both wanted.

How long should I wait before cutting my losses and moving closer to the people I care for and who miss me?

— ALONE IN THE DESERT DEAR ALONE: If you haven’t already, it’s time to have a conversation with your boyfriend about what your expectations were when you made the move to Arizona. If you want to have children, you will be getting a late start as it is.

Ask him why he wants to postpone your wedding plans beyond what you had agreed upon. He may have cold feet, his friends or relatives may have said they don’t care for you — anything is possible. But you deserve straight answers, and if they aren’t satisfactory, I see no reason to devote more time to a relationship that isn’t working out.

*** DEAR ABBY: Seven years ago my sister’s 19-year-old son was killed in a car accident.

After the wake she gave me a heart necklace with some of his ashes. We no longer speak and haven’t for four years.

Well, did I get a shock today.

I received an email from her asking for it back! She even had my stepmom repeat that message to me. I don’t believe she has the right to ask for the necklace. Does she?

— BLUE IN TENNESSEE DEAR BLUE: Because you are no longer speaking, I can understand why your sister might want her son’s ashes back. Be a lady; return the necklace to her via registered mail or have your stepmother give it to her. It’s regrettable that your relationship with your sister has sunk to this level. Because this was no ordinary gift, understand that if you refuse to return it, your relationship with your sister will be permanently fractured.

By Abigail Van Buren