Woman who wants implants must ignore boyfriend’s threats

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Woman who wants implants must ignore boyfriend’s threats

DEAR ABBY: I have always struggled with a lack of self-

esteem and confidence. I would

like to get breast implants.

It’s not to seek attention or anything; it’s merely to feel better about myself. Clothes don't fit me properly, and I am

embarrassed.

My boyfriend is completely against it. He says he doesn’t want to be with a fake person, even though I have tried in vain to tell him I’ll be the same person on the inside. He has also threatened that we will have relationship problems if I have the surgery done.

This procedure will, in my opinion, help me in many ways. On the other hand, I don’t want to lose my boyfriend! Please help.

— DOESN’T WANT TO LOSE HIM DEAR DOESN’T WANT TO LOSE HIM: Which is more important to you — to do something that will make you

feel more confident about your

appearance or hang onto this boyfriend? He may be worried that you will attract too much attention if you change your appearance, or have a hang-up about "relations" with a woman

who has implants.

If he were your husband, I might answer differently, but from where I sit, you have to do what’s best for you. A boyfriend who would prevent you from boosting your self-confidence strikes me as selfish and not much of a "friend" at all.

*** DEAR ABBY: I’m saddened by the mistresses of today, also known as "side chicks." These

women have no morality or conscience. Yet their status

seems to be glorified all over

social media.

What advice would you give to my friends who are contemplating joining in this madness as a "hustle" and a

way to get child support from married men?

— DISGUSTED IN CALIFORNIA DEAR DISGUSTED: You are describing entrapment and extortion. A woman who would do this is lacking ethics, morals and self-respect. That kind of individual isn’t likely to listen to advice from me. I do have some, however, for YOU. End those "friendships" because,

on an important level, you have nothing in common with these shameless users. I pity the children, who are nothing more than meal tickets to their mothers.

Dear Abby

abigail Van Buren