Wife’s payback for cheating husband isn’t worth the price

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Wife’s payback for cheating husband isn’t worth the price

DEAR ABBY: I found out a few months ago that my husband, “Hal,” the father of my children, has had affairs with five different women.

I left, and we are now being divorced.

I desperately wanted revenge, so I have been secretly seeing Hal’s good friend “Ron,” whom he “forbade” me from contacting after I told him his infidelity and disrespect gave

me permission to act on the attraction I had for Ron. It’s just

a friends-with-benefits situation

and I am having fun, so I don’t really consider it to be revenge.

Hal has spent the last five

months begging me to forgive him and work on our marriage, but I no longer love him and I certainly don’t trust him. I told him I would “work on” forgiving him, so now he calls, says he still loves me and flirts.

The last woman Hal cheated on me with is his current girlfriend. He told me that if I ever want to hook up, I should make sure to use code words when leaving messages because she might see my calls and text messages. He also told me that he is not interested in a longterm relationship with her.

I slept with Hal recently to have leverage. I was contemplating sending her the proof as payback for how she treated me some months back, although I don’t want her boyfriend back. I am now questioning if this is the right thing to do. Should I just leave it alone? — PAYBACK SOMEWHERE IN THE USA DEAR PAYBACK: Yes, do it for everyone’s sake — including your own. This cycle of revenge is doing no one any good. ***

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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abigail Van Buren